Attitude Adjustment

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I was ready to explode. I was in a hurry and I had been waiting in line for fifteen minutes already. Couldn’t management see they needed to open up another register so their customers would not be delayed so long? I kept looking around. Others were beginning to complain and getting kind of loud.

Does anyone remember going to the store with your mama and it was a pleasant outing? People actually struck up conversations with others. Everyone spoke and asked “how are you?” They said excuse me if they needed to get by.  It was community and when you left you were smiling! Nowadays, unless you see someone you know, hardly anyone speaks and if you do speak to them you get a strange look. Of course this doesn’t apply all the time, but I’m sure everyone can identify with some or all of the above.

Now it had been 25 minutes and the girl checking out the line I was in must have been new. I think only one buggy had gone through the line. As I stood there continuing to wait, not patiently I might add, I was becoming more frustrated by the moment!  I called my friend to tell her I would be late because the store only had a certain number of registers open and I would be there as soon as the slow boat to China moved. Then wham!

This little voice in my head said, “Why didn’t you leave earlier? There was no reason you couldn’t. Also how many people are watching you right now? What kind of witness are you being for Jesus?”

 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:14-16

I felt like crawling under the tile floor but no such escape was available. I was hemmed in and could not move. I said a breath prayer asking God to forgive my behavior and to change my attitude. After all, it stunk! I don’t know about you, but I felt ashamed of myself. I was my own worst enemy here. I could have planned better, shopped earlier, or even shopped a different day. Here I was taking it out on a poor defenseless cashier who had probably been on her feet for 6 hours without a break and dealing with folks like me who had gotten up on the wrong side of the bed.

Finally, it was my turn and thankfully God had given me an immediate attitude adjustment. I looked at the young woman and could see it had been a difficult day. I spoke and said, “Busy day, huh?”

She said, “Very busy and I have a sick child so not much rest last night.”

Wham again! I found myself praying for her as a young mom, asking God to give her rest and to help her child. God used this to check my heart and to remind me I’m His witness no matter where I am, even waiting in line at the grocery store. Note to self: don’t forget this lesson. And next time why not pray while you wait?

Father, help us to always be aware that we represent You no matter where we go. Foreign country, local community club, coffee shop, and yes, even the grocery store. We could be the only Jesus someone sees. What reflection of You did they see?  We want others to know You and we want them to see a clear image of You in us, not a distorted one. We can’t do this by ourselves and we readily admit this and ask for Your help so that we always leave the sweet aroma of Jesus behind.


The WM Team

Chains of Yesteryear

Ever had a memory just pop into your mind from years ago? A memory that only brought pain and hurt and you wonder why now? Well I have, and I seriously believed it had been put to bed, so to speak, a long time ago. It stopped me dead in my tracks. Buried feelings rose to the top and threatened to overwhelm me, but I was in the grocery store. I couldn’t allow this to happen. They would be calling someone to come take me away. I knew I had to get out of the store. Leaving my buggy, I made a bee line for the door and then my car.

Once inside my car the dam burst, and I sat there with my face in my hands sobbing. Finally, I was able to stop crying and was very grateful my roommate would not be home when I got there. I remembered I had been a little edgy lately and not sleeping well. My mind would try to take me back to that time, but I would fight it! Well today it had won. Entering my apartment, I sat down in the darkness and quiet.

Then I remembered a sermon I had heard that week on letting go of your past and forgiving yourself. The pastor clearly used Scripture pointing you to Jesus and freedom. He pointed out how we stay in bondage and often don’t even realize it although we have sincerely accepted Jesus. He went on to say God will bring something to mind, over and over if necessary, attempting to get you to acknowledge it, face it, and walk through it with Him to freedom. Not that it didn’t happen, but giving it God. God would replace the pain with Himself and those chains would fall off and it would no longer have a hold on you or stand between you and your relationships. Even your relationship with Him!

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death. For what the law was powerless to do because it was weakened by the flesh, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh to be a sin offering. And so he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fully met in us, who do not live according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.

Romans 8:1-4 NIV

I slipped down off the couch and onto my knees and cried out to God. I thanked Him for not letting me push this down again but to bring to Him, give it to Him, and allow His healing to take place in my life. When I got up I felt as if a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Truthfully it had. I had been carrying this hurt for a long time. Now I was walking in freedom because of God’s love. Is it still a part of my past? You bet, but it no longer defines who I am. Did Satan try to use it against me again? Yes, but with the truth of God’s Word he couldn’t put those chains back on me! You see, it didn’t win. I now realized I had won. Because of God’s grace I was victorious!

Do you hear even the slightest rattling from your past? Is a memory coming back over and over that hurt or damaged you? As God’s child, take it that He is calling you to be free of the chains that bind you. Are you in need of inner rest? In Matthew 11:28-30 Jesus says “Come unto Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and YOU SHALL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. For My yoke is easy, and My load is light.”

Father, thank you for Your faithfulness to us as your children. Your salvation is the door we must walk through first. Let us remember and be reminded we are more than conquerors through Jesus Christ. Help us to walk in freedom in You every day. When your love for us brings to mind over and over a chain rattling memory, help us to recognize it is You calling us to be free of it. Give us the courage to face it with You, because that is the only way for us to be victors. Amen.


The WM Team

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Saturday, August 11, 2018 10:00am-12:30pm

Family Life Building – Girls Ages 14-20

We will be baking homemade cookies and then delivering them to first responders as a way of saying  “Thank You”  for their service.

If any girls ages 12-13 would like to come to this event, please feel free to sign up.



Saturday, August 25, 2018  9:30am-11:30am

Family Life Building – Ages 14 and up


And it’s going to be bigger and badder than last time!

Join us to build on your newly acquired skills or to start from scratch!

All ladies ages 14 & up are invited to attend.

Cost is $10 per person, and is due by August 19th. Please make checks payable to Red Bank Baptist Church and put WM Self-defense in the memo line.

Please contact Kristen Matthews for questions, more information, or to sign-up!


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Wednesday Nights – 09/12/2018 through 10/17/2018 – 6:00pm-7:30pm

AND… Tuesday Nights – 09/11/2018 through 10/16/2018 – 6:30pm-8:00pm

Study Books will be $7.00 each

We need everyone to sign up as soon as possible so we know how many books to order. Signup sheets are located outside the church office and in the front vestibule of the sanctuary.

We know this is going to be a great study and we want all ladies wanting to attend to have the opportunity. We have been discussing the logistics of offering two nights for awhile and now are pleased to offer 2 nights.


You Are a Kingdom Woman


Walking in the way of a kingdom woman will transform you forever. Starting now, you can discover your true spiritual destiny and leave discouragement behind.

Come with Dr. Tony Evans and his daughter Chrystal Evans Hurst as they explain how you can unleash new spiritual purpose, power, and possibilities in your life. Tony Evans’ inspired teaching will give you new and transforming insights into biblical principles, assuring you that God is on your side and that He tenderly cares about every woman.

With humor and vulnerability, Chrystal Hurst shares personal and practical insights that will help you embrace your role as a woman with wisdom, spiritual beauty, and sensitivity.

You don’t have to seek anyone else’s approval for the life God has given you.

Today live like the woman God designed you to be.




Saturday, September 15, 2018 10:00am-5:15pm

Tickets are $10.00 per person.

Schedule of Events:

Doors Open at 10:00am.

10:30 a.m. – Event Begins

11:00 a.m. – Session One

12:30 a.m. – Lunch Break (Lunch on Own)

2:00 p.m. – Worship

2:30 p.m. – Session Two

4:00 p.m. – Invitation/Break

4:30 p.m. – Worship


4:40 p.m. – Session Three

5:10 p.m. – Closing Worship

5:15 p.m. – Event Concludes

Click Here To Purchase Tickets Online

You can also pre-order t-shirts online when you purchase your tickets. Shirts are $12 each. Pre-order deadline for shirts is 08/25/2018. Pictures posted on event discussion. These shirts are super soft and roomy, unisex sizes. For example, if you wear a women’s large, consider a medium in this shirt.







Saturday, October 6, 2018

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Saturday, December 1, 2018

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Christmas Joy

It was my 5th store looking for that perfect gift. Christmas was still three weeks away and I was already exhausted. Work obligations and gatherings with family and friends had not slowed down since Thanksgiving. I desperately wanted some time to exhale. Can you relate? I can’t help but wonder is this what God wants? I got into my car to head home without the item I had hoped to find. There was baking to be done tonight for the elementary school celebration.

As I pulled into the driveway I couldn’t help but notice the bright star right above our home. Was God trying to tell me something? I walked into the house to be greeted by our pair of terriers so excited to have anyone home. Shortly after, the kids came in the door with their dad, dirty and tired from soccer. While they hit the showers, my husband came into the kitchen and gave me a quick hug, too quick. I just wanted to stay embraced in his arms for a little while longer. He opened the fridge door and retrieved a soda. Brushing past me he went to change clothes and find a game on TV to watch.

I pulled all the ingredients out for the dessert I was making and begin to blend the flour with cocoa. Opening the pantry door to throw away the empty containers I was looking at an overflowing bag. Once again our son had not taken out the trash even though we had just discussed this with him two days ago.  Sitting the containers down I pulled the bag out, tied it up, and went out back to put it in the large trash can. There was that star again, was it brighter than when I first got home? I stood there just gazing at it, and once again couldn’t help but wonder if God was trying to get my attention. The wise men had followed a star that led them to the Messiah.

Walking back inside I finished the dessert and went upstairs to take a long bath. After soaking for thirty minutes, I got up with my skin looking like a prune. Putting my robe on I walked over to the window and there it was again. The star! Just like a light being switched on, it hit me. God was telling me, “Stay focused on Me. After all I am the reason for all this celebrating.”

Have you ever felt like you were the last one to get something? My heart had been aching for some peace and it was right there all the time in Jesus. He had put that star in front of me three times saying, “I’m here, just whisper my name.” We find ourselves exhausted from our schedules. God says, “Come and sit with me awhile. Take time to truly enjoy Me and the gifts I have given you.” He tells us, “Be still and know I am God.” (Psalm 46:10)

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”  ~  Matthew 11:28-29

Father, forgive us when we get caught up in the hustle and bustle, and before we know it we have left You out of Christmas. Without you there would be no Christmas!  May we be intentional about exhaling, resting in you, and rejoicing in the gift of Your love and salvation. Keep us sensitive to the ways you speak to us, even by a star. Amen.


The WM Team


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